Our adoption journey began when we were at a crossroad during infertility treatments. My niece was adopted through IAC, so we decided adoption with the help of’ IAC was the path for us. We had support during this time from my husband’s parents as well as my brother and brother-n-law.
Corey and I decided to use social media to help gain exposure of our adoption journey. We not only had a personal website through IAC, we also had a Facebook page and outreach cards made by Hopefully Parents. We left the outreach cards behind anywhere we went and we recruited friends to help us hand them out. I have to say, we used Facebook a lot! We were active in various adoption support groups and did anything we could to spread the word we were looking to adopt. We did come across a couple of negative scammers that reached out to us via Facebook. However it was very clear from the beginning that they were in fact scammers.
We actually connected with our child’s birth parents by way of Facebook in an online adoption support group that we had shared our story in. Our first contact with our child’s birth parents was exciting, however we did so much out reach we always looked at it as an opportunity to educate someone with our adoption experience in our friend/family network then if the conversations grew to more that was even better! Now our son’s birth mother actively follows us on Facebook as well as we text, email and have a private Shutterfly share site.
'We connected with our child’s birth parents by way of Facebook in an online adoption support group that we had shared our story in.'
Our advice to someone just starting out in the adoption process would be to avoid agencies and be cautious of those wanting large amounts of money especially up front. I wouldn't recommend to anyone to hire an agency. After the closure of IAC it was very difficult to lose our investment however I strongly feel the private attorney and LCSW was the best help not only I could have hired but truly had the best interest of the birthmother at heart.
During ‘the wait’ the best thing to do is to stay busy and share, share, share your story with anyone and everyone. People love adoption and babies. They are always willing to help you share the word too.